Hi ladies,
I just got back from Michigan, Scott and I had a great weekend! We took Deedra and Nader to see the fireworks, and had a nice BBQ on the 5th. Drive back today was pretty smooth.
Looks like we've got a little drama here....
I didn't really think we should be re-reading this drama over time, so I just got rid of it.
Jenna- I'm sorry that you have felt left out- I thought we had a good bonding time in NE and that you're a busy momma that would just want to come to the wedding and have a great time. Some people actually hope for the luxury of not having to diddle with the details.
I also think you should take some time to think through your part in all of this. April has asked you lots of times if you were coming to the shower/party, and you've let plenty of weeks go by without saying anything, so she and I didn't want to push the issue and make you feel guilty if you couldn't make it out. I might not know the whole story, but it just seems like there was a lack of initiative there. We're all very sorry, and will try to make sure you stay in the loop about important stuff from now on.
Logistically, there's not much reason to host something if you're not able to be at the event, it's a fairly key component. Please be a little more honest with yourself. You've made mountains out of mole hills throughout the wedding planning process. The whole point is to be there with me on my big day, supporting me as a close friend, and to have a great time!
I didn't actually want a bridal shower in the beginning, but sometimes it's best to go with the flow. I think it's going to be great. We will be sad that you're not there, but we're not going to have any hard feelings about it. I hope you can build a bridge and do the same.
I'm not even going to touch the subject of your wedding, I have no clue why you're bringing that up. It doesn't make any sense to sit around playing the comparison game 5 years later, it's a completely different situation.
As for my bachelorette party, my gut reaction is that Liz is not jumping up and down for joy at the prospect of going clubbing in Widsor, but she knows I like to dance, and so she'll try to grin and bear it, and hope that I don't do that crazy leg-flailing thing (don't worry, I wont)! We're also going out for dinner and maybe a show, so there should be a little variety.
I've read in the wedding planning advice that you should lay out your expectations of the attendants, so that they aren't left confused, and the bride isn't upset when things don't go as planned, etc. So I'm going to do that for you here.
Jenna's bridesmaid responsibilities:
1) Share in the happiness of our special day
2) Wear the dress- It's gonna need altered, bustled, ironed, and who knows what else.
The gig is to show up looking good. Remember to bring your shoes!
3) Get drunk at the reception- if logistically possible
4) Remember who's wedding it is- Katie & Scott's! And all this bitching is PISSING us off.
5) Dress up Emma and Riley super cute
6) Have fun!!!
7) Smile in the pix =)
Liz's bridesmaid responsibilities:
1) Share in the happiness of our special day
2) Wear the dress- It's gonna need altered, bustled, ironed, and who knows what else.
The gig is to show up looking good. Good move with the flops!
3) Get drunk at the reception- if logistically possible
4) Help April with the shower, bachelorette party, and slide-show stuff as needed
5) Get excited if the DJ remembers to play our token Beatles requests =)
6) Have fun!!!
7) Smile in the pix =)
April's maid of honor responsibilities:
1) Share in the happiness of our special day
2) Wear the dress- It's gonna need altered, bustled, ironed, and who knows what else.
The gig is to show up looking good. Coordinate with Tracy to see who wants to get the bussle done 1st and take pix for the other girls to have as an example. Find out who's train is hanging the shortest on the ground right now (prob Jenna or Liz's since the didn't add length) and make sure all the girl's trains get hemmed to that same length.
3) Get drunk at the reception- if logistically possible
4) Lead the organization for the shower, party, slide show. Chat with me and the girls about who wants to be involved in what. Let me know if I'm putting too much responsibility on you!
5) Fuss with my train at the ceremony
6) Have fun!!!
7) Smile in the pix =)
Wedding updates:
Hotels-
I looked at the hotels over the weekend. We stayed at the Super 8, it is decent. I would suggest Super 8 for Thurs night since it's a central locale, and then either to stay there again on Friday if you don't want to move, or to go to the Fairfield Inn for Fri night. I know Jenna and Eric plan to stay at Comfort, that makes sense for them since they have the points. I'm not going to block rooms at Comfort Inn b/c the hotel is a bit older and not as nice looking as the one's across the street that are the same price. We're going to try to get the discount blocks at Super 8 and Fairfield. The drive from the hotels on the highway in Port Huron is very quick (6 min from the reception), but also a bit tricky (several highway switches). It's a bit of a haul to the church from there. Either area should be fine, and ya'll are welcome to stay at whichever place that suits you best. I'll chat with ya'll and see what makes the most sense.
Limo-
I'm gonna look for a limo soon. I want to try to get a big party bus that will have plenty of room for all. It will take us from the church to the reception. I'm gonna try to get it set up to also take the girls from Fore Lakes to the church before the ceremony, we'll see if that's in the budget.
Rehearsal-
It's at 6pm on Thurs. The groomsmen and ring bearer need to come early on Thurs for tux fittings, that's just an FYI, doesn't apply to ya'll. Parents, wedding party, readers, priest, etc will be there and at the dinner.
The dinner will be at the Voyager restaurant, I haven't set the time yet. It's going to be a family style meal. There will be about 30 of us there, so a pretty large crowd.
Wedding Etc.-
-Susan is concerned about not having an assistant for the pix, so everyone will need to be as helpful as possible with the posed pix so she doesn't go crazy. I'm encouraging her to bring along one of her friends from photography school, so hopefully that will work out
- We asked Nader to do the Old Testament reading, I think he's excited
- We'll prob have aunts or uncles do the other 2 readings
- Deedra is going to help out with getting people gathered for pix, passing out flowers, busseling our dresses, etc. Allison might be helping with that stuff too, I haven't asked her yet
PS- Pray for my Aunt Les, she's not doing well. Cancer has spread to her lungs and liver and she is at home right now on a morphine drip. Angie called me tonight, she sounded worried, and they don't really know what's going on, the doctors haven't said much.
Love,
KT
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